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Autofellatio just a show-offy way to masturbate for gays -- and straights

0 Comments · Wednesday, October 8, 2003
I'm in a relationship with a man who recently told me about something he used to do before we met. He is þexible enough to give himself a blowjob, he said, and used to do this often to get him  

How to get over men's basic instinct of lust

0 Comments · Wednesday, October 1, 2003
Maybe there's nothing women can do about men being "hard-wired" to lust after other people. Maybe all we can expect is for them not to act on that instinct. Maybe we just have to "get over it." But   

Women need to overcome insecurities about porn

3 Comments · Wednesday, September 24, 2003
My boyfriend looks at porn, and it freaks me out. It's not because I'm jealous but because I'm insecure. I'm sure many of those girls are more attractive than me. In general, Dan, you've been reall  

Woman looks to unleash her bestiality past and move forward

1 Comment · Wednesday, September 17, 2003
Between the ages of 13 and 16, I engaged in bestiality with our household pets. I was a horny kid and I guess kind of a freak. It never went beyond oral copulation, and I eventually curtailed the w  

Dan is the man, but the acronyms are out of control

0 Comments · Wednesday, September 10, 2003
This is probably the least entertaining letter you'll ever get, but I hope it'll make a nice break between snot-suckers and shit-eaters. I'm 18 now, going to college and I think I might be in love.  

A lap dance in Vegas turns into a sticky situation

0 Comments · Wednesday, September 3, 2003
In Vegas I made the mistake of telling my "friends" I had an "accident." The girl giving me a lap dance was grinding too hard and I blew my load. Within minutes the nicknames started: Sticky Pants,  

Frothy sex byproducts grease up the sheets and everything else

0 Comments · Wednesday, August 27, 2003
Take a word of advice from a doctoral student of communications at an Ivy League university: If you want your message to stick, you need to repeat it over and over and over. The reactionaries in ou  

Dry humping leads to questions of the potency of semen

0 Comments · Wednesday, August 20, 2003
I'm a 16-year-old girl with a 17-year-old boyfriend. My boyfriend is religious and strongly against sex before marriage (vaginal, anal or even oral). Recently our making out has lead to "dry humpin  

Gay man has only rejection to fear in pursuit of his best friend

0 Comments · Wednesday, August 13, 2003
I gotta say I'm a bit disappointed in you. I've been reading your column for years and you've answered the same question from gay men many times: "How can I hook up with my straight roommate?" Mont  

Big Black, Not the Band

0 Comments · Wednesday, August 6, 2003
I'm a 19-year-old girl dating a 21-year-old guy. We've been dating for a year and a half, love each other dearly, have a great time together. In bed the other night, my sweet boyfriend let me put a   

A Freaky Clean

0 Comments · Wednesday, July 30, 2003
How do you get rid of a sexual fetish? I've got an incest fetish and, while I don't plan on acting on it, it's still very annoying. Second, I was raped by a sibling as a child. Repeatedly. And whil  

Letters From The Beach

0 Comments · Wednesday, July 23, 2003
Dear Readers: I'm on vacation. I'm actually sitting on the beach as I write these words, knocking back margaritas and watching my boyfriend's tan lines come in. But you know what? I'm still th  

Particular kind of stimulation

0 Comments · Wednesday, July 16, 2003
Remember how one time (or maybe two) you warned a guy (while remaining masturbation-positive) not to condition his body to come only in response to a particular kind of stimulation? I believe --