Now: The issue has changed geographically but not fundamentally
What does Teresa think of the ongoing debate about same-sex marriage? "I'm really thinking it's Wag the Dog," she sighs. "Bush is playing to the conservative right. I just want the same rights and privileges as anyone else to be able to protect my kids."
Teresa excuses herself to tend to details of stay-at-home-mom-hood -- soccer shoes and a play date. Returning, she continues, "It's a bunch of hoo-hah, but you have to fight the fight. You still have to make your presence known."
Right now, her presence is at home. Kelly is an engineer with Procter & Gamble so Teresa can stay home to raise their family. It wasn't always that way: Teresa left a career in investment banking to stay home with the kids. P&G's domestic partner benefits to couples made that possible. Teresa plans take up nursing again once the twins start school. In the meantime, she deals with the play dates, soccer shoes and the inevitable questions about her relationship with Kelly.
"Eryn is in second grade," Teresa explains, "so we do a lot of role playing. 'Do you have a dad?' I ask her, and we work on her response: 'No, I don't have an elephant either.' We talk about different families."
She occasionally uses books to help with the questions but finds that it's sometimes easier to "educate subtly. Every kid has something, whether it's a divorce, a death or a loss, two mommies, two daddies."
She helps Eryn to help others see the similarities between their families, rather than the differences -- a lesson that more and more people acknowledge today.
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