Traditional forgiveness is based on the idea of letting bygones be bygones, Tipping says, yet deep down the belief remains that something bad happened. "The more you were hurt, the more you feel the need to condemn and seek revenge. Time and therapy can help, but true forgiveness remains elusive, and worse, may never heal."
Radical forgiveness is a process that begins from a spiritual standpoint where nothing wrong happened.
Some core beliefs are:
· If it weren't for my parents, I would be whole.
· As an abused child, I will always be damaged.
· _________is responsible for my unhappiness.
· I will never be enough.
· I don't deserve to be loved/be successful/be prosperous, etc.
Some self-destructive behaviors are:
· Putting others needs before one's own.
· Creating drama
· Living below one's potential
Tipping presents these abstract ideas in a way that's simple, meaningful to each individual's situation and practical. Find out more about his ideas at www.radicalforgiveness.com. ©