At this point we question whether we're living the life we really want. We might not have had the time or space to have done this up until now, but now it seems to be in the forefront of our minds. We're noticing the aging process in our bodies and maybe feeling unfulfilled in our jobs and/or relationships.

Mark Gerzon, author of Coming Into Our Own: Understanding the Adult Metamorphosis, says that the purpose in the second half of our lives is to seek wholeness and deeper meaning and "live our unlived lives." He's listed some key points to help us "win the midlife quest":

1. Listen to your body: Flexibility, strength and energy are needed more than bulk when exercising; perhaps eat more simply and a bit less; meditation and stillness ease the stress of hyperactivity.

2. Seek loving relationships: We must be able to be ourselves, and sometimes revealing our yearnings can upset the balance of our unspoken domestic agreements; this can create either a break or a deeper, more meaningful partnership.

3. Find your calling: Does what we do match who we are? Perhaps a shift within the company or a dramatic change is called for.

4. Seek meaning in aging: Realize what we gain as we age and the beauty in finding meaningful ways to live and contribute.

5. Honor all of the generations: Support the multi-generational community and realize the importance of connectedness; avoid isolating age groups.

6. Cherish the planet. We're entrusted with the future, and the wisdom of elders is needed.

7. Increase spiritual awareness: Listen to your inner voice.